For a few years now, I have struggled with my self-worth and image especially in light of the social media era. I have always been worried about how people perceived me, how I looked in front of them and what they thought of me - this caused major anxiety in my life and in turn, made me question my value in this world.
One of my biggest problems is I compare my life against my peers and even my own boyfriend (none of which is their fault) Most of them went from high school to university to full time jobs, they are being promoted into managerial roles and/or getting married and moving in with their significant others. This is where I thought I would be at the current age of 27. However, I am none of those and because of the fact I feel that, I am not like the “norm” and I’ve created this unhappy environment around me and convinced myself that I am a failure due to the slow progression in my life. Any good qualities I possess are overshadowed by my feeling that I am not where I “thought” I wanted to be or was supposed to be. As a result, I was questioning whether I was clinically depressed and heavily considered seeking help from a therapist.
Before making the commitment to sessions with a therapist to cope with this potential illness, I decided to try and change my lifestyle and habits with a life coach. Whether it be a therapist or a life coach allowing myself to be vulnerable around another person and admitting things I’ve only admitted in my head is one of the hardest things to do - Terry created such an open, trusting and safe space that all those worries/insecurities blew out the window. He became an older brother to me; protective but blunt. He tells it like it is – for example, if you are stubborn and opinionated he will tell you that you are stubborn and opinionated. He doesn't say it to make you feel bad about yourself, he does it to allow yourself to realize what and who you are and how you are able to use those qualities to your advantage.
Prior to my session with Terry, I sought help through other friends and I read different self-help books and the common statement I was told was "stop giving a sh*t about what other people think of you" and as a result you will diminish the worry and anxiety. However, it is easier said than done and I never accomplished that challenge. With Terry though, he changed the perspective of the saying and transformed it into "start giving a sh*t about yourself!"
He made me realize it is time to start caring about me and worrying about what I am doing in life. He reminded me: “As humans we only have only one life to live, do what we can now while we are able to do so.” At the very end of our session, the most important thing he told me to do before ANYTHING else, was to congratulate myself because the hardest thing to do is the first step, seeking for help after recognizing the situation at hand.
Terry is the definition of first step, he makes you feel empowered, confident and the second you walk through his doors you become family. My progression to a better life will not happen overnight and it will take some time to break out of my old and bad habits, but I am thankful for the kindness and guidance Terry was able to provide for me – I am confident that I will break out of this “funk” and hone in on my true potential and worth. I truly appreciate his work and efforts.
Charlotte W., 27, CAFE Manager, Vancouver B.C.
(60-Min. Coaching Session)
It was an honor to be a part of Terry's group coaching program. It really reopened my eyes about who I am as a person and if I'm happy doing the day to day boring human stuff. It also made me happy to know that there are others out there who actually want to do something about their lives in a huge way! And what's better than being all together discussing and learning and growing with the same mind-set people? It's the most empowering!!
Mina K, 23, Student, Vancouver, B.C.
(8-Week Group Coaching Program)
It was very inspiring working with Terry. I deconstructed my life and put it back together to see the bigger picture. Most importantly, working with Terry allowed me to put myself and my needs/priorities first based on my values and who I am as a person, as opposed to what society expected of me. Also, Terry is amazing, full of ideas and his intuition was fairly spot on.
Samantha Crown, 37, Project Manager, Vancouver, B.C.
(8-Week Life Planning Program)
Terry has been amazing. I couldn't be happier with the experience that I have had with him. Terry first tries to figure out what makes you 'tick' then begins to formulate a plan together with you that will allow you to reach your goals, starting with the person you are at the beginning. He teaches you what you need to understand regarding the model he presents, gives you the tools to build it, then 'pushes you out of the nest' in order for you to grow. During the process his insight and feedback give you an opportunity to truly reflect upon what is going on inside and around you. He certainly has an amazing ability to read situations and people in a way that paints a very clear picture. I am so excited to see what else we will work on when begin the next phase.
Andrew Cyr, 40, Pharmaceutical Sales Manager, Scottsdale, AZ
(6-week Online Coaching Program)
SIMPLY THE BEST. Before choosing to work with Terry, I spoke with 4 other Life Coaches and a psychologist; I was really lost and trying everything (and everyone) that could help me surpass what I was going through. I was convinced that I wanted to work with a female Life Coach (being a female myself), but from the first 2 minutes of speaking to Terry, I felt that this was someone who really gets me (like a close friend) and knows what I'm going through. Terry had the best advice on various "life situations" and all the tips he gave me always made perfect sense. He's truly the best guide to help anyone get through a difficult or confusing period. When I first contacted Terry, I didn't even know what was going wrong. He helped me pinpoint what wasn't going well and how to make it go well - without taking drastic decisions right away that I might regret later. I would recommend Terry to anyone who's feeling confused at any point in their life regarding any situation... Terry will be there to listen to you and to guide you to a happier and more positive place. Thank you Terry for doing this for a living and for spreading positivity in the world.
Karina, 28, Key account manager, Quebec.
(6-week Online Coaching Program)
I met Terry at a very interesting point in my life. I found myself at a crossroad completely clueless of what am i supposed to do with my life and my mind just couldn't stop rushing and pulling me in all directions. That's when I decided I need help. I learned during his group coaching program about perspective and about always finding a way out from every situation. What Terry will continue to reinforce is that for the best results you have to be completely honest with yourself, and that's what I was trying to avoid at all costs. Sometimes truth is ugly but we have to face it. He is also emphasizing on how to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Get out of my comfort zone, look beyond the limits I foolishly set for myself, push the boundaries of my mind and making me aware of the world inside and out. I'm very grateful for the opportunity of being in his group coaching program, I've learned so much more with his help than relying solely on myself.
Cristina, 23, Guest service agent, Vancouver, B.C.
(8-week Group coaching Program)
I was referred to Terry by a family member who recommended him after using his services. I was skeptical at first as I have generally found most coaching/psychological services unhelpful but Terry proved to be different. If you are looking to make some positive life/career/relationship changes in a short period of time, Terry is your man. He is highly insightful and skilled at reading and understanding people at a core level. Within the first session he recognized my strength/challenges and easily identified self-defeating ideologies and habits that stood in my way from reaching my full potential. In the four sessions I had with him, we were able to find direction in both my personal and career life and develop a plan for implementation. Terry not only spent as much time as I needed during our sessions but he also spent a lot of time doing research, providing useful links/ information and providing written follow-up and action plans. He is professional and personable and genuinely cares about his clients. Most importantly he is highly effective at what he does. I felt his services were excellent value and I would highly recommend him.
Diana C., 39, Burnaby, B.C.
(8-week personal Coaching Program)
This was my first time with professional coaching services and I thought it was a very positive experience. Terry helped me change my perspective on people and situations in my life, and showed me some techniques and tools to better myself, stay positive and move forward in my life. Terry is very perceptive, and taught me a lot about myself. He was organized and put a lot of thought into each session, and any feedback. I felt like he really paid attention and remembered our conversations, and catered the sessions to my interests, goals and what would personally benefit myself.
MAdeline adams, 24, Photographer, VANCOUVER, B.C.
(8-week personal Coaching Program)
Terry is an amazing Life Coach. Not only is he compassionate and caring, but he is also intuitive and perceptive and has the ability to quickly see things that you aren't willing to see or are in denial on. When I met Terry I was depressed and lonely. I was in denial that my estranged husband hadn't treated me as well as I deserved to be treated, that he took me for granted and that I deserved better. I was hanging onto what little of it had been good and was in denial about the bad. This was primarily due to my loneliness and childhood abuse issues, so I was hanging on to what was familiar to me and was longing to get back with my husband. Due to Terry's guidance I was able to see that my matrimonial home was a source of loneliness for me and that I needed to find what inspired me, as far as a career was concerned as I had recently been laid off. I decided to sell my house and found another house I fell in love with that I could make my own. I also decided to take the opportunity of going back to school through sponsorship from Employment Insurance. And I realized that my husband had not made our marriage a priority and that I deserved better. But I decided to put any dating on hold until I found myself to be stronger emotionally, and free from any emotional baggage from my marriage. Terry allowed me to see how I could be a positive role model for my young teenage son, by becoming a strong empowered woman and be able to be there emotionally and physically for my son. Now I am feeling positive and excited about my life going forward and hope to one day have a fulfilling career and loving relationship I deserve. And I couldn't have done it without Terry's guidance and enlightenment.
Julianna FOSTER, 49, Vancouver, B.C.
(8-week Personal Coaching Program)
Fate has brought me to cross paths with Terry and it was the best thing that happened to me in 2015. I lacked purpose and was desperate for some help and guidance and didn't know what to expect from a "life coach" and, in approximately 2 months, I am a more determined person, more positive, energetic and aware of my surroundings because of Terry's coaching techniques.
I can proudly say that I am so much closer to finding out my purpose in life thanks to Terry. He manages to get the best out of me and he put me on the right path. He is highly recommended. Terry is genuine, dedicated, very patient, understanding and many more but most of all, he is very passionate about what he does and that's the most important thing.
Nada, 27, Cairo, egypt.
(8-week online Coaching Program)
I found Terry to be extremely helpful in gaining perspective in my life, and he offered me concise tools to use in order to increase a positive outlook! He was extremely sensitive, kind and intuitive and was very easy to talk to. He also did not "hold my hand" all the time, and used appropriate moments to pose challenging and awkward questions. We never want to answer those, but it's important for digging beneath the surface of our emotions. This talk was invaluable. Thank-you so much!!
Hayley Crittenden, 34, OPERA Singer, VANCOUVER B.C.
(2-week Life Coaching Program)
Thank you again Terry for the awesome session. That day, you helped me figure out how to have a better state of mind and drive to achieve better in life. You made me realize how to have a more balanced, more fulfilling and more enjoyable life by letting the past go so I'm not carrying it on my back. Before, I was holding onto old beliefs and old mindsets that really didn't help me. You made me realize the more I appreciate my present and future, the more positive mindset I will have. When you reminded me that it's what I do and how I act is something that will duplicate in my daughter, is what really hit me because I was doing things that I would not want my daughter to ever do. That is when I decided to let go of things and stop putting my life on hold and focus on my journey with my daughter for the better.
Thank you so much again. Keep doing what you're doing because your coaching sessions are incredibly inspiring, and I value your expertise and support that guided me to my individual strength and need. Thanks for the motivation and self-direction I needed.
Pritika Gandhi, 28, Self-Employed, VANCOUVER B.C.
(2-week personal Coaching Program)
Great! Terry thanks so much for meeting with me. - In a very rich and intense couple of hours he opened my eyes to some things I was not considering in my relationship. He was full of insight and wasn't afraid to ask tough questions. He listened to me and tailored his coaching to my specific situation. It was a very valuable experience for me.
GRAHAM FITZPATRICK, 32, VANCOUVER B.C.
(1-hour personal coaching)
Terry has played a tremendous part in how I approach every day challenges both in my personal life and in my work environment. Confidence and patience have always been two areas I have had difficulty with. My time with Terry has helped me take a calmer approach to numerous personal hurdles such as the frustration of not being able to immediately start a family, an issue I have been anxious about and struggled with for some time. He is a wonderful and kind person who you can easily open up to and feel comfortable around. Terry has the gift of being able to make you understand the bigger picture of any scenario and help you understand the steps involved for you to reach your ultimate goal.
Olivia, 27, Marketing Consultant, Vancouver B.C.
(6-week personal coaching program)
I've always been motivated and determined in my life, both in my career and personal life. However, over the past few months, I've ended up losing my sense of direction. I had felt like I was simply going through the motions of things, struggling to find my purpose in life. Working with Terry had been one of the best decisions I've made since. Terry's understanding and expertise in building a solid foundation in life played a key role in reconstructing and redefining my own. With Terry's guidance, I've been able to find my footing and my purpose again. He has been a pleasure to work with and I highly recommend him to others. Two thumbs up!