the law of awareness

How to Discover Your Passions: Build the Bridge between 2 Lessons

Bridge

As I’m paving my own path, living by my own identity and letting knowledge and understanding guide my thoughts. I can feel myself inching closer to the heart of my own virtue.

There are two very significant lessons that connected me to my passions; to my very purpose of being…

…I was about 18 years old, tired of negative influence and feeling like I didn’t belong. I was broken by betrayal and my trust in others diminished. I remember filling out my university application and remember writing exactly what I was expected to write. Just so someone could grant me access into an academic institution of no real value to me or my life. My only frame of mind was escape, so long as I didn’t have to face the reality of my intentions, I played by the rules.

So there I was, naïve, free and finally without the burden of responsibility nor tradition. I met 3 very different individuals, ambitious, influenced and as fresh-faced as I.  Individuals who taught me that being me was all that was necessary. Teaching me the true value of my own life and that I shouldn’t give a f*** about anything else other than the present and being present.

Although, I still found it very difficult to be present towards graduation. It was at the end of this experience and returning home, when I realized the importance of the two lessons. Lessons that guided my successes, moved me around the world and gave me the confidence to dream and to pursue that dream.

Lesson #1 – Identity

  • To embrace and nurture all aspects of my identity.
  • Stay true to who I am and let truth guide my aspirations.
  • To let that truth shine, so that others could connect. So that I could connect.
  • An identity of my own so that my mind and my life remained in my own control.

 Lesson #2 – Awareness

  • To be present in the moment and to be very aware of it.
  • Experience what’s happening now so that I could navigate my future.
  • Being aware of others, aware of my actions and aware of my environment.
  • So that I could protect myself from negativity and any threat to my identity.
  • Aware of myself; my identity, so that I could work on my weaknesses and build upon my strengths.
  • To be present in the moment of opportunity.

These two lessons taught me more about myself and the world I live in, than any manuscript, guru or drug ever could.

However these two lessons do not work well unless they’re connected. You can’t truly be aware unless you understand and know yourself. On the other hand you cannot fully develop your identity unless you become more aware and present.

The bridge that connects them, is emotion.

Emotion is by far, the most significant tool you have, when it comes to building a life you’re fulfilled by. It sounds so simple, but because emotions are so complex and varied, many of us fail to notice how simple life can actually be, if we pay attention to what we’re feeling.

Ever notice how a child experiences life? Free, uninhibited and curious. They’re present in the moment and full of character. Notice how the very thing that motivates and stimulates a child's eagerness to learn and engage, is emotion. A child can love easily and has an abundance of love too, allowing them to connect to others and for others to easily connect.

When I returned home, I quickly noticed how much I ignored my emotions to pursue a life of false fulfillment. The more I allowed myself to feel, the more I became aware and the more my identity rose to the surface. It was emotion that allowed me to embrace the above lessons, that guided me to the success and fulfillment I have in my life today.

So learn to listen and experience your emotions. Build that bridge so you too can discover, and confidently live by your identity. To help you become more aware, so that you know what it is you need to do to find fulfillment.

As you begin to live life by these two lessons, build the bridge that connects them. You'll begin to discover your passions; discover your own virtue, thus enabling you to pave a path of your very own.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

Law of Attraction Vs. The Law of Awareness.

Awareness

Here’s a secret, that’s not so secret, being completely aware of yourself and aware of the world you live in can get you to where you want to be and what you want from life.

I don’t dismiss the Law of attraction, and for me I think it’s a great notion for those embarking on a journey towards their desires. As it helps people visualize what it is they want, people begin to understand the power of belief, and if you believe in something so much, one way or another you’re going to find a way to justify and preserve that belief.

Problem is what I want and what I truly want are two very different things.

Beliefs are empty without action taken towards them, those that are self-aware build their beliefs based on their own identity, not what they are led to believe. If you read my previous post on success, I share an experience of my own.

The power of awareness and its role in life is fundamental when shaping your aspirations and desires. It answers more questions, it challenges your desires and builds your spirit up ready to fight for it. It allows you to access your full potential so that you can really make a significant impact on your own life.

 “So Terry, how does one become more self-aware?”

Well, to simplify it as much as possible you have to look at the concept first from an internal perspective and then externally.

#1 Internal

Awareness of yourself is crucial, how many of us can truly say we’re very aware of our actions, of our behaviors and its impact on our own identity or that of others? To become aware of it, I say question everything. What motivated me to say that? Why do I believe this? How can I change this? Why do I desire this? Each question you discover the answer to unveils much more about your identity, such as your motivations for instance.

I walk down the street every day and see people unaware of their very existence – following routines and holding back emotions, becoming numb to the world around them. People failing to be present in the moment of opportunity because they live life with blinders on, only understanding the rules society laid out for them.

Don’t focus on the shiny new car until you’re feeling like the person driving it, don’t focus on that massive new home unless you’ve found an avenue that gives you fulfillment and the time to actually enjoy it, and to spend time with the family you perhaps built/want to build. Rather, use these desires as anchors, motivational triggers if you will.

There’s also those that seem to be more aware of other peoples opinions of themselves but completely dismayed by their own will for change. Buried under the pressure to fit in rather than the longing to proceed on a journey towards acceptance, often of self.

I’ve stopped a lot of indulgences over the last year, primarily because I’m becoming more and more aware of myself and my behavior. It doesn't even feel like I’ve changed, it feels like I’ve shed layers of false desires built up by the lack of self-awareness I had. Only now to end up in a position where my true desires are exposed and  prepared to attract the very things I truly want in my life.

Attraction works both ways, being consciously aware of myself allows me to search and find the very things that excite and stimulate different parts of my identity. Knowing that gives me so much more clarity on the things I truly desire in my life. They lead me to the awareness of my external environment.

#2 External

Awareness of your environment; I sometimes speak to old friends from years ago and they talk about how bold of a decision it was for me to leave everything behind and leave for a new life. But I had them understand that the day I became aware of where my life was heading in my current circumstances, my circumstances had to change and it was the easiest decision I ever made.

My current environment at that time did not cater to the opportunities I was waiting for so I had to go out into the big bad world and find them. I grew tired of the company I kept because I never felt inspired, challenged nor fulfilled by the identities around me. It sounds awful but it’s true and it’s not because I consider myself superior in any shape or form, it’s just that my desires in life differed significantly.

How was I to attract the things I wanted in my life if I stayed in an environment that neither catered to nor contributed to my aspirations.

Awareness will work much more in your favor, it requires you to think objectively and act subjectively. I built a stronger bond with my desires and now they’re leading me to places of lasting fulfillment, to places I never even envisioned.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach