How to Deal With an Identity Crisis

It’s time to give doubts the finger and own your life. I started off this blog with becoming a brand because the message is crucial to success. I do firmly believe the key to living a happy and fulfilled life is to properly know yourself first, and as you become more and more familiar with who you are, you begin to realize what you want. By knowing what you want, you will begin to shed doubts and really take charge of your own life – a life not determined by others, nor directed by what you think, but rather by what you know.

I always live my life with my eyes wide open, observing life as it happens and it's how I've come to learn this concept. I've met numerous people who are consistently lost and lack direction because they lack identity. It affects relationships too. Sometimes it’s because we’re so pressured to stick by a timeline, that our identities get blurred in order to fulfill ideology. It’s naive and damaging to our self-esteem. I understand that there are some things we need to figure out at certain times in our lives; to enrich society and the community around us and to look onward toward our retirement yes. Consider making investments and securing a future yes and to build camaraderie and companionship yes. However to fundamentally achieve anything without figuring out your own identity will only make it more difficult to go through life.

I understand how difficult it is to put yourself back out there, to show the world what you stand for and what you represent - I remember this feeling when I first shared this blog. But look around you, look at the most successful people out there and I’m not only talking about successful folk with millions of dollars with big homes and fast cars, I’m shouting out to those making positive changes in the world, those achieving goals they never even dreamed of and those who are standing up for their own beliefs. Simply look at the people you aspire to – each of these individuals/groups have a firm grasp of their identity and I bet you can describe them well.

When you feel you’re having a crisis of identity and feeling like you've lost your way, it motivates doubt. Turn to your dreams and aspirations, they will guide you back to your goals and objectives, reminding you of the person you set out to be.

Vancouver Relationship and Life Coach

Terry Sidhu

VanCity Life Coach, Vancouver, BC, Canada